Luke: “What’s in there?”
Yoda: “Only what you take with you.”
Now when Yoda was advising Luke in this way, I am sure he was not talking about Online dating. But still – it applies.
I write this on the cusp on my first online-induced date. With Jack. Real name: Not telling.
(See Part 1 of this series.) We are being conservative. It’s just coffee.
My friend – who is like a professional consultant for such bold and often awkward endeavours has offered to call me 15 minutes into it to give me an excuse to go.
Another friend who works in IT for one of the big dating sites also gives me 15 minute advice. “Tell him you will meet him for 15 minutes. One drink and you can go from there. Then if you’re having a good time for can always keep it rolling.” Having a good time? I dare not hope!
Internet dating. I’ve heard the horror stories and I’ve heard the doe-eyed ‘how-we-met’ stories.
I will admit I find it a bit daunting. But I’m not sure about these contingencies, I think I’d rather go in being real, trusting my own boundaries, holding my own ground. I am more than equipped for such a journey:
I could really over think this and go in with all sorts of anxieties but instead I reckon the worst thing that will happen is Jack will be really rude, belligerent, creepy, overly familiar in a creepy sort of way and mean. AND creepy. Did I say that already? Or he could be creepy in a vapid, inane, messed up kind of way.
The second worst thing could be that there will be nothing to talk about. The third thing – especially if paired with the second thing – is that there will be no attraction. At all. Flat linin’…________Beeeeep_________.
But I won’t know unless I go.
Jack is making it easy after all. He’s like: “Hey, we’ll probably not hook up, and maybe we’ll never see each other again but, it’s harmless and we’ll probably be better people for meeting each other.” Now I can’t argue with that.
If nothing comes of it, BOOM! on to the next adventure. And finally, I can always rely on Yoda for realistic advice:
Obi-wan: “That boy is our last hope.”
Yoda: “No, there is another.”